Thursday, August 28, 2014

'Normal' men viewing pornography over time in laboratory settings become more aroused to scenes of rape than to scenes of explicit but not expressly violent sex, even if (especially if?) the woman is shown as hating it. As sustained exposure perceptually inures subjects to the violent component in expressly violent sexual material, its sexual arousal value remains or increases. “On the first day, when they see women being raped and aggressed against, it bothers them. By day five, it does not bother them at all, in fact, they enjoy it.” Sexual material that is seen as nonviolent, by contrast, is less arousing to begin with, becomes even less arousing over time, after which exposure to sexual violence is sexually arousing.

Viewing sexual material containing express aggression against women makes normal men more willing to aggress against women. It also makes them see a woman rape victim as less human, more object-like, less worthy, less injured, and more to blame for the rape. Sexually explicit material that is not seen as expressly violent but presents women as hysterically responsive to male sexual demands, in which women are verbally abused, dominated and degraded, and treated as sexual things, makes men twice as likely to report willingness to sexually aggress against women than they were before exposure. So-called nonviolent materials like these make men see women as less than human, as good only for sex, as objects, as worthless and blameworthy when raped, and as really wanting to be raped and as unequal to men.

As to material showing violence only, it might be expected that rapists would be sexually aroused to scenes of violence against women, and they are. But many normal male subjects, too, when seeing a woman being aggressed against by a man, perceive the interaction to be sexual even if no sex is shown.

Sexuality, Pornography, and Method: “Pleasure under Patriarchy”
Author(s): Catherine A. MacKinnon
Source: Ethics, Vol. 99, No. 2 (Jan., 1989), pp. 314-346
Published by: The University of Chicago Press

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Wednesday, August 27, 2014

the-ever-so-odious:

Orca: “hello friends where’s the party”
Penguins: “FUCK SHIT NOT THIS ASSHOLE AGAIN RUN”

Hey, can you guys do me a favor and send me an anonymous (or not) “yo” (or whatever word you prefer) if you’re reading Lights in the Shadow? Since I’m posting it on AO3 and not tumblr, I don’t really have the best idea of what my readership is. :) Thank you!

thyartisdisney:

LABRATHOR

thyartisdisney:

LABRATHOR

musichealsus:

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Choosing a Wheelchair (Video)
Hop, Pop, and Jump- #1 #2 #3 (Video)
How To: Talk To Your Doctor (Video)
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Winter
Spoon TheorySpoon Theory/Visual Spoon Theory
But You Don’t Look Sick
Spoonies:The online community for young people living with chronic illnesses.
Coping Skills for the Disabled and/or Chronically Ill
Pillow Fort
How to modify your home to make it friendlier wheelchair ramps that don’t look like wheelchair ramps 
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Service Dog DIY Blanket NestUse pill cap as pill cupHow to make a comfort boxWhen to use Heat or IceAnxiety & Panic Masterpost
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musichealsus:

All Links Open In New Tab

Newbie Stuff

Choosing a Wheelchair (Video)

Hop, Pop, and Jump- #1 #2 #3 (Video)

How To: Talk To Your Doctor (Video)

Practising Wheelchair Wheelies (Video)

maintenance

Winter

Spoon Theory
Spoon Theory/Visual Spoon Theory

But You Don’t Look Sick

Spoonies:The online community for young people living with chronic illnesses.

Coping Skills for the Disabled and/or Chronically Ill

Pillow Fort

How to modify your home to make it friendlier 
wheelchair ramps that don’t look like wheelchair ramps 

Wheelchair Accessible Home (Video)


Products you might like
My fav on the go pill case
ePantry
PillPack

Chronically Badass: A Guide for the young and chronically ill 

Pillow Fort Magazine

New Mobility Magazine 

Wheelchair Accessible Tent 

Clothes Ect
-tips for dressing
-shoes
-bags backpacks purses

TV Shows/Online Shows/Movies/Books with wheelchair users

My Gimpy Life (Online Show)

Push Girls (TV show)

Push Girl (Book)

X-Men (Movies, TV show, Comics) (Professor Charles Xavier)

Family Guy (TV show) (Joe)

Avatar (Movie)

The Guild (Online show) (Venom)

General/Tips/Other

Wheelchair YogaWorkout 
Self Defence

transfermaster.com

functionality

Hiking Tips / Camping Tips

Service Dog 
DIY Blanket Nest
Use pill cap as pill cup
How to make a comfort box
When to use Heat or Ice
Anxiety & Panic Masterpost

Tip for manual wheelchair users. If feel yourself about to fall backward at any given moment, lift your head and tuck your chin into your chest. Yes, quick reaction may be necessary but this will save your noggin, trust me

Do you have any tips or links that isn’t on this list? Please feel free to leave a message in my Inbox and I will update the list.

Writing is utter solitude, the descent into the cold abyss of oneself. Franz Kafka (via thescriptlab)

qog314 said: How did you cultivate your skepticism? I think of myself as fairly intelligent and yet I'm also exceedingly gullible when it comes to things I know nothing about. How did you train yourself to question instead of accepting what even a seemingly reliable/trustworthy source says?

pyrrhiccomedy:

I started and re-started my answer to this ask half a dozen times. Because it’s a really, really important question, but it’s also a hard question to answer in a useful way. I’m going to do my best.

Nothing is as important as what you believe is true. If I can control what you think, I can control every decision you make. I can control what products you buy, who you vote for, which of your friends you trust—and which of them you distrust; I can choose which social causes you apply yourself to, and how effectively you champion them; to a very great extent I can even decide what you’ll major in in college, who you’ll marry, IF you’ll marry, if you’ll STAY married if the marriage goes bad, what job you’ll go for, how well you’ll do in that job, how you spend your leisure hours, how you treat your children, how you feel about yourself when you look in the mirror, what you’ll eat for dinner, and if you’ll respect yourself in the morning.

EVERY DECISION YOU MAKE is based on what information you’ve accepted. So if I can make you believe what I want you to believe, I own you.

And make no mistake: my best interests are NEVER the same as your best interests. The most you can hope for from ANY source is that their interests and your interests align. If I’m a company, then it’s in my best interest if you buy my product. I am only interested in the quality and safety of my product to the extent that you will not buy it if it’s garbage, or too dangerous. If I’m a newspaper, believe me, my goal is not to make you a more informed citizen of the world. My goal is to sell newspapers.

However, it may be that my reputation is an important part of reaching my goals: and if I feed you misinformation, my reputation may be damaged. And so a degree of trust may be invested in sufficiently reputable sources, since their goal (“to maintain a high reputation”) and your goal (“to learn something”) are aligned. Be VERY CAREFUL when bestowing this kind of trust on a source, and NEVER let them act as your ONLY source. You can never know for sure how important that reputation really is to them, or for what ends they may be willing to compromise it.

"But this information is from a random Tumblr post, not a news corporation, or a professional blog. Nobody’s making money, here. So why would they lie to me?" Attention? Attention’s a big one. Those posts you see going around, full of SHOCKING CLAIMS, usually have tens of thousands of notes. Tens of thousands of people shocked - shocked! - to learn that feeding bread to ducks makes them sick, or that Charlie Chaplin was a Nazi, or that bleach mixed with baking soda can eat through concrete. It doesn’t matter that none of those things are true. It doesn’t even matter if the OP, or all of the people reblogging it, BELIEVE that they’re true. What matters is that EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THOSE PEOPLE had in their own interest something that was more important to them than “make sure the things I’m reblogging are accurate.”

Maybe they wanted the prestige of being the first to bring interesting new information to their social group. Maybe they were alarmed by what they read, and they wanted to keep their friends and loved ones safe. Maybe what they read reinforced some bias that they had, and so they disseminated it because they wanted it to be true. Maybe having this surprising intel on their blog made them feel more intelligent, or more socially conscious. There are lots of reasons, because there are lots of people, and every single one of those people had their own best interests.

And none of those interests are yours.

So because what you believe is SO important, and because you are the sole guardian of your own best interests, I think it’s downright reckless to accept any piece of information as fact without asking two questions first:

- Who is telling me this? Do I have reason to trust them? Should I trust them SO MUCH as to let them be the sole arbiter of what I believe on this subject?

- Who benefits if I accept it as the truth? THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT. A lot of information masquerades as being in the interests of one thing when really it’s in the interests of something else. Really think about it.

When you choose to believe someone - anyone - about anything, you are giving them power over you. And skepticism is the only thing that protects you from giving that power to people who don’t deserve it.

Every time I see that “Fun fact: If Hilary Clinton wins in 2016, it will be the first time two presidents have had sex with each other,” post I’m like…

THAT’S WHAT YOU THINK.

OMGGGGG

The assisted living center where I volunteer got a community dog!! His name is Rio, and he’s a five-year-old black lab and he weighs 70 pounds. He is BIG and VERY sweet, loving, and friendly. He used to live with an older couple on a farm, so he’s very used to old people and adores them. And they love him too!

I work with an older lady who is visually impaired, so she has difficulty using the computer, which has no assistive technology on it. :/ We put together the monthly newsletter for the assisted living center. And today, Mr. Rio The Dog came to sit with us while we worked on the newsletter! He curled up at our feet and was a 150% sweetie. Pat, the lady that I work with, just loves him.

I’m so happy that the place got a dog. They’ve been thinking about it for a while. Everyone who came to say hi to Rio today, their faces just light up as he cuddles up to them, asks for pets, and wags his tail frantically. He’s such a good companion. Animals are so good for mental health, especially for older people, and I’m glad that more and more assisted living homes are getting into the idea of having a community pet. 

What a good cop looks like: Officer pushes stranded wheelchair-bound man home in the rain

poorrichardsnews:

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We spend a lot of time talking about police brutality and abuse of power around here because that’s an important topic.  Police officers have in large part lost the respect of the public because they have resorted to using force and fear instead of earning the respect.  

We wanted to highlight examples of police officers earning their respect. Over the coming months, we’ll be featuring stories like this one with a common theme: what a good cop looks like

from WBBH:

A Fort Myers, Florida police officer went above and beyond the call of duty to help a wheelchair bound man stranded in a pounding rain storm, and it was all caught on a dashboard camera.

Officer Gil Benitez works the night beat. On Thursday night around 8:30 p.m. he received an unusual call of a man in a wheelchair stuck in the rain.

"It was raining so hard, I couldn’t even see the stop sign" said Benitez.

He found Michael Arnold sitting in his electric wheel chair on the side of the road.

"The wind picked up like crazy" said Arnold. "I got to the end of the street and everything just stopped on me."

Arnold was just a block away from his home.

Within seconds of Benitez arriving to help Arnold, lightning struck near the two.

Even after that close call, Benitez pushed Arnold all the way home. He dried him off and stayed with him until Arnold’s family arrived.

read the rest

Police officers are supposed to be ordinary citizens who the public hire to serve and protect their community.  They are not above the law.  They are not beneath it.  They are co-equals with their fellow citizens under the law. 

This officer is to be commended for going above and beyond what is expected of him in order to serve and protect a member of his community.  Actions like these earn the respect of his community. 

tastefullyoffensive:

Artist Chris McMahon buys other people’s landscape paintings at thrift stores and puts monsters in them.

Previously: Artist Repaints His Own Childhood Drawings

Tuesday, August 26, 2014

somewheremeantforme said: Gryffindor! You're chivalrous: you're always warm and considerate with your anons and followers. And you're brave, both for pushing on through your studies and how you've dealt with difficult people during your internship. Anyone can start a fight if they get pushed hard enough, but it takes real courage to step away from one.

Wow, omg. I’ve never thought of myself as being chivalrous or brave before! Thank you so much! This was very sweet. <3 And that last line was real wisdom. It definitely takes a lot of self-control to keep hold of your temper and not let a situation escalate. I credit years of practicing Tae Kwon Do and my amazing TKD teacher for that.

In which Hogwarts House would you place me?

Bonus points for justification.

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theblanknotebook:

Your Body Is Beautiful And You Are A G o d d e s s 

Reblogging again because YES!

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