You can’t hate yourself into a person you’ll love.
Being whole in your heart, mind, soul, and skin begins with embracing yourself for the beautiful, messy, strong, flawed, imperfect, fragile — lovely human being that you are.
A mirror doesn’t show you how worthy you are. A lover or lack of one doesn’t define how meaningful you are. A grade, a job, a bank account… none of these things decide who you are.
You need to look into your soul and discover what makes you — YOU. You need to peel off all the pretenses and lies covering your heart and figure out what makes you leap inside, what makes you come alive, and what helps you breathe.
Hate will not help you; it will destroy you.
Love, acceptance, gentleness, forgiveness, patience… they will help in the process of discovering what it means to be one of the living.
Be gentle with yourself. Accept your flaws not as limitations but as opportunities to grow. Be kind to yourself; this is your first time living so of course you don’t know everything. Be patient with the questions, the confusion, and the setbacks of life. Forgive yourself, forgive others, not because you have to but because nothing good grows from bitterness and hatred.
Love is the answer. I truly believe with all my heart and soul and I hope and pray that you would stop hating yourself, stop neglecting your needs, stop treating yourself like you are meaningless, stop letting people make you small, stop beating yourself up, stop being mean — start deciding day after day that love is your answer.
The only person you can legally hit in the United States is a child.
Hit your partner, and you’ll be arrested for domestic violence. Hit another adult, and you’ll be arrested for assault. But hit a 4-year-old, and you can call yourself a “loving father”. That’s completely screwed up.
It should be against the law for a fully grown adult to slap, hit, spank, punch, switch, whoop, whip, paddle, kick or belt a defenseless child in the name of discipline. But it is legal, and new research in the Journal of Family Psychology suggests that the average 4-year-old is hit 936 times a year.
If study after study conclusively proves that hitting your kids doesn’t work as a disciplinary method, and worse, it has long-term damaging impact to their psychology and makes your kids more aggressive, why do we as a society allow it? Mel Robbins, "Spanking Isn’t Parenting; It’s Child Abuse" (via holygoddamnshitballs)
One problem I had with the Legend of Korra is that I never liked Korra’s supporting cast too much, whereas in ATLA I not only liked Aang, but I liked and cared about the entire cast (except Ozai, that stupid piece of shit.) That’s changing this season. I really appreciate what they’re doing with the supporting characters. A lot has already been written about Asami’s friendship with Korra, and I really like that Mako and Bolin have bosses and mentors that are women, who are both highly competent and who they respect very much and are devoted to.
I know I’ve said this before, but I also appreciate Prince Wu a lot. In the US, at least, so many people are into the whole “no homo” thing, but in Wu we have a male character who is unapologetically comfortable with, and initiates, physical contact with a fellow dude he respects and admires - Mako. Wu has all these stereotypically feminine hobbies such as shopping, spa days, etc., but he gives no fucks about it, he’s not ashamed, and it’s great. This show isn’t perfect but it’s doing right by its male and female characters, and I appreciate that a lot.
everyday life with ibs—
Other people: “It’s 6 PM! Time for me to do homework, make dinner, etc.”
Me: “It’s 6 PM! Time for an episode of VIOLENT AND HORRIBLE wrenching stomach cramps! Yay!”
Prince Wu is a stupid comic relief character who’s bound to irritate a lot of people in the audience, but dangit it kills me that he’s genuinely fond of Mako, and Mako clearly tries to be patient and helpful even though he’s a gruff, cynical ass by nature and he probably wants to strangle Wu a lot of the time.